BJ Mann Divorce Blog Index

This page organizes all of BJ's blog posts by divorce topic. It will be updated each time BJ publishes a new post. We hope it helps you find the information you are looking for. If not, please contact BJ, and she'll be glad to … [Read more...]

Top 10 Ideas for Divorce Healing

Ask 20 divorced people about what helped them find their resiliency and healing after a divorce, and you’ll probably get 25 answers. Over the 15 years that I have helped clients reach a financial and practical agreement, I have also helped many … [Read more...]

Must Love Dogs: A Relationship Plan

"He doesn't love me." "I cannot trust her." "There's just no respect between us anymore." These are the sentiments clients often express in my office when trying to explain why their marriage is ending. Sadly, these words—love, trust, … [Read more...]

New Year’s Resolutions and Divorce

The winter solstice and the start of a new year are catalysts for many people who want to resolve to do things differently. We’ve all tried to set goals to make improvements. We are going to exercise more, eat differently, stop spending … [Read more...]

What Is Your Divorce Mask?

With Halloween approaching, people have been decorating their homes and dressing up in costumes for weeks. The notion of changing who we are by a mask or a costume often starts when we are children preparing for the annual trick-or-treat outing. … [Read more...]

When Hopin’ Ends, the Healin’ Begins

Dusty Springfield sang a song in the early 60’s called "Wishin’ and Hopin.’" The chorus went like this: Wishin' and hopin' and thinkin' and prayin' Plannin' and dreamin' each night of his charms That won't get you into his arms Clinging to Hope … [Read more...]

5 Tips to Support Your Friend Going Through a Divorce

Eight years. That’s the average length of a first marriage that ends in divorce. The actual statistics are that 41% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. So, chances are, you have co-workers, friends, … [Read more...]

An Unexpected Source of Healing in Divorce

Summer solstice is the longest day of light and has become the symbol of renewal and new beginnings. It is nature’s way of telling us that the long, dark days of winter do end. The cycle of dark and light is as old as biblical stories. This timeless, … [Read more...]

Some of the Most Beautiful Gifts Come in Ugly Wrapping Paper

Over the many years I have helped clients end their marriages, I am frequently the only one in the room holding the possibility of their future happiness. Regardless of why the marriage is ending, there is always sadness and mourning. It’s not … [Read more...]

Three Tips for the Winter Solstice–and Living Through a Divorce

Ending a marriage can be like your own personal winter solstice. It can be among the darkest days of your life, feeling as if the cold will never end. But nature is a good teacher. The shortest, darkest day in December is followed by days that … [Read more...]