BJ Mann Mediation Services
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BJ Mann Mediation Services
BJ Mann’s fair and affordable services help you resolve issues involved in separation and divorce quickly and affordably.
The solutions that she creates with you support you not only through the mediation process but long after the divorce is finalized.
BJ Mann’s specialty is working through all the issues as a neutral resource, especially in matters regarding care of the children, so that there are no surprises later. She offers affordable mediation services that save you time, pain, and money.
Online Divorce Mediation Services Available Across New York State
To cope with the pandemic and lockdowns, people everywhere took advantage of technology to continue to work and stay in touch. As a result, many services remain available through online tools even as in-person restrictions start to ease. This includes BJ Mann Divorce Mediation Services.
Online mediation sessions are convenient and eliminate travel time. Those benefits also reduce scheduling conflicts.
We’re all used to physical distancing due to the coronavirus pandemic, but even when health isn’t an issue, not having to meet face-to-face can be a plus—especially in a divorce.
BJ brings her decades of expertise and experience as a successful divorce mediator to clients from New York City to Alexandria Bay, from Albany to Buffalo, and everywhere in-between. She uses the Zoom video platform, which is accessible via a computer, tablet, or phone with an Internet connection. Of course, emails and phone calls remain available.
Her online complimentary initial consultation will help you decide whether this format works for you.
During the COVID Pandemic
BJ Mann helps post-divorce couples who are working through the virus’ impact on schooling, parenting, and work-related issues.
Read BJ’s articles or view her videos about coping with COVID during divorce or contact BJ to learn more.
BJ Mann Offers Day, Evening, Saturday, and Sunday Appointments
Start your divorce research here:
- Learn how to begin the end of your marriage.
- The current Combined Parental Income Amount value used in child support calculations.
- The current Spousal Maintenance Payor Income Cap Value used in spousal maintenance calculations.
- Understand the spousal maintenance and child support calculators.
- Use the table of contents to find helpful articles on BJ’s Divorce Wisdom Blog.
- Find key articles on telling the children and other topics at the bottom of every web page.
- Search this website using the Search box at the top of the right column of any page.
- Review the resources below for important information.
A Better, Not Bitter Divorce
Your Go-To Handbook for a Better Divorce
Divorce does not have to be a bitter ordeal—and no one knows this better than BJ Mann, a leading divorce mediator in Upstate New York who has guided more than two thousand couples through the divorce mediation process.
A Better, Not Bitter Divorce: A Fair and Affordable Way to End Your Marriage gives divorcing couples the information they need to take apart their relationship as equitably as possible and rebuild their individual lives. It provides clear explanations, concise worksheets, and detailed checklists to help navigate every aspect of divorce.
“A valuable guide for exploring
alternatives to divorce lawyers.“—Kirkus Reviews
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It’s Not One Divorce, It’s Four
Most talk about divorce implies it’s a one-dimensional activity: Two people decide they no longer want the legal relationship.
In fact, there are at least three parts to divorce, or four, if you have children:
- The Legal Divorce: Understanding the law, regulations, and guidelines in divorce can be a challenge.
- The Economic Divorce: Separating assets and finances is another kind of divorce.
- The Emotional Divorce: Divorce means both people need to disconnect emotionally and dismantle the couple relationship. If children are involved, a new relationship must be built between the parents to see to the children’s needs.
- The Children’s Divorce: Despite reassurances that the divorce isn’t their fault and both parents still love them, children also go through their own divorce from the life they knew.
BJ Mann guides you and helps you find resources for all four parts of divorce.
BJ was wonderful. She made a difficult experience much easier through her compassion, her wisdom, and her expertise. Ending a marriage is never easy, but she kept us on track, helped both of us to feel that our concerns were being heard and addressed, and guided us through the bewildering maze of details that we would never have known about if not for her. She’s incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. I’ve recommended her to several people already and will continue to do so.
BJ and her resources were responsive to our particular circumstances and helped us create and then file an uncontested divorce agreement within a very short time frame.
Divorce is a very difficult and emotional time of your life. I felt extremely lucky to have found BJ for our mediation. She was always very professional and open with us, and truly looked out for both of our best interests. It has been ten years since my initial meeting with her, and I still call her when I have a question. She takes her time and after all of these years, still takes care of my needs. I would highly recommend BJ Mann for mediation services.
Despite our obvious stress of undergoing a divorce, BJ’s professionalism, empathy and compassion as a mediator created a relaxed atmosphere during our meetings with her. Her experience and calm demeanor made the process move smoothly and quickly, and her skill in facilitating tough conversations made them easier and less hostile for us.
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Hidden Assets in Divorce
Is Your Spouse Hiding Assets from You? As you go through your divorce, perhaps you have a growing uneasiness about the financial picture your spouse has provided. The numbers don’t quite add up, or your spouse’s explanation doesn’t seem to cover the situation. You start to wonder, is he or she hiding assets from me? […]
Managing Your Child’s Identity Documents
Do You Know Where Your Child’s IDs Are? Managing the safety of your child includes obtaining and protecting the official documents that govern their life. Organizing those across two households requires time and planning so that both parents have access to them as needed. To manage your child’s identity, include language in your divorce terms […]
Organizing Child Support in Divorce-Part 1
UPDATED April 2023 (see below) One of the scariest parts of ending a marriage is the worry about financial security. Each person wants to create a comfortable home for themselves and their children. When couples discuss how they are going to share money between them, there are generally two concepts: child support and spousal maintenance […]